How family constellations work should be done?

The facilitator must be completely neutral: no tension, no intention, no fear, no pity, no love. In this case the client’s family system will allow the facilitator to enter as it feels no danger and no disrespect. The facilitator enters the family system as the youngest member for a short period of time to receive the information and to pass it to the client. If the facilitator is tensed or has fears this prevents him from receiving the right information. If the facilitator has an intention or feels pity/love this means he positions himself as a parent of the client, showing disrespect to the client’s family system. The system will simply refuse the facilitator to enter and the work will be done with no result. To make the real work happen the facilitator must be completely neutral.