The Source of Help

The source of help is in you. This is your intention that makes positive shifts possible. If you are in love with your problem and prefer to stay with it then nobody can help you. What really matters is your intention. The best facilitator is helpless if you don’t want to work on your problem. I’ve seen Bert Hellinger refusing to work and saying “Does this client want to work? No.” And that is it. No work.
This is the paradox of facilitating: you help without wishing to help. If looking deeper this is all completely OK because this is client’s intention that initiates the whole help. And facilitator has nothing to do with this, he is not involved. He just joins the movement that happens after.