A few words about depression. Depression often occurs when a person wants to die. This deep process happens at the soul level (or subconscious level if it’s more convenient). Why does a person want to die? Often, because someone beloved has passed away. And not just died, but nobody regards that person anymore. And to be more precise, others neither see, nor want to behold his soul anymore.

Abortions and Loops

Modern methods of contraception, such as abortions, contraceptive coils / loops and birth control pills always or often are triggered already after an impregnation occurred (abortion – always, and with birth control loops and tablets dozens of pregnancy interruptions might occur, depending on the level of one’s sexual activity). Namely, after a child has been conceived. The egg and sperm have found each other, got united – it is a child, a living soul, a family member (as to who belongs to our family, click here: The First Order Of Love).

If the child’s parents believe that s/he should not be born, they are trying to deprive the child of this right. Both mother and father begin to suffer after the death of the child. The pain is very strong. That is why, the mother often does not want to see what she has done (or these children). If there are already children in the family born after abortions (and other contraception types), they are trying to take on themselves the parents’ responsibility (e.g. the mother’s one).

Children’s Depression

When alive children look at aborted ones (“look” – in the sense of feeling, loving, reaching out to them), the living ones’ existence begins to pull of to death. They get sick. Depression. Fears (motherhood fear, the fear of germs or/and death). The desire to die. Inability to achieve success in life, similar to something not letting them to do so. Failure to create a successful family. And so on. Their souls are crying. They cannot allow themselves to live, when such has happened with the other children in the family.

The best way out is when the mother takes the whole responsibility for the action. In this case, she relieves her living children of what they do not belong to.

Reasons And How To Work With Them

Why do parents want to abort children? The reasons could be different. Starting from an illness of a child or mother, up to a traumatic situation happened with the mother (rape, public / family / mother’s parents condemnation), a lack of funds or housing, and so on. At the deepest level, the reason could be connected with poor ties with the woman’s own mother, as well as a deep trauma in the family (e.g. the woman pulls herself into death). After all, children – this is life. If the woman wants to die herself, then the vital energy goes against life into death.
It is important to understand that neither shame nor guilt would do any good here. Namely, with the self-reproach you won’t achieve anything, but harm yourself. The background could not be changed. The only thing that you can do is to admit the guilt with dignity and behold the dead children. It is their relieve. In that way, their souls are no longer lost.

Bert Hellinger’s constellations are very suitable for dealing with such cases. Working out with the aborted children cases – is one of the most difficult situations for women. This requires a great deal of courage from them.