Your constellation topic:
– Choose whatever hurts the most. Say it to the facilitator in 1-3 words. Do not add any details. Details are on the way of your successful work.
Also, this is my personal preference after a few constellations: I suggest to work on _your_ issues, not on your mother-brother-children-spouse, and I prefer to work on health as our bodies show everything. Read More
During the constellations work, when you work with the energies, there is no rush. Take your time. Sometimes you might feel like something is missing, but when the energies are not stable it might be just some unfinished process. If you wait a bit more you might find that the field is complete, all is settled and there is nothing more to wish here, all feels good and fulfilled.
We do not move this Life but we are welcome to join its movement and express it.
This came to me during our meditation in Santa Monica this March
Bert Hellinger at one of his workshops in Germany gave a few recommendations to facilitators and representatives:
– “Before starting to work with the client I breathe out everything I do not need and I breathe in. This is how I receive the information. All information is in the air.”
– For representatives Bert and Sophie recommend to take off their glasses to have better connection.
– Also for representatives Bert Hellinger would usually say to move slowly to feel the field.
Bad Reichenhall, Germany, Nov 2011
From the “Orders of Help” by Bert Hellinger.
“…The End.
Finally, I would like a little touch of one particular topic. This topic is: “The End.” There is nothing more beautiful than the end. Why? Because after the end there is always a new beginning. When you help, it is very important to finish at the right time.
Sometimes I imagine the artist who created a beautiful painting, but he could not stop and continued adding and adding until the painting was hopelessly spoiled, it could simply be thrown out. So, we must know how to stop at the right time. Read More
“The most valuable treasures are guarded by the fiercest dragon. To reach these treasures, you need to approach the dragon and kiss it.” (Bert Hellinger. The Orders of Help.)
To our dragons. With love.
The Life is always moving forward. You want it or you don’t. You can try to resist this movement or you can agree with it. It does not matter. To the Life. But it does matter to you. Either you waste yourself by trying to resist or you get extra power to move forward with the Life. You decide.
This is not as important who is against us. The more important is who is with us. The Life gives great power to all of us. The question is: are we accepting this power? Does this power work for the Future Life or is it getting lost somewhere in the past or simply wasted. By misusing this power we can simply get sick and weak. Accepting this power we can make ourselves many time stronger than we are right now.
The facilitator must be completely neutral: no tension, no intention, no fear, no pity, no love. In this case the client’s family system will allow the facilitator to enter as it feels no danger and no disrespect. The facilitator enters the family system as the youngest member for a short period of time to receive the information and to pass it to the client. If the facilitator is tensed or has fears this prevents him from receiving the right information. If the facilitator has an intention or feels pity/love this means he positions himself as a parent of the client, showing disrespect to the client’s family system. The system will simply refuse the facilitator to enter and the work will be done with no result. To make the real work happen the facilitator must be completely neutral.
Accept it first.
And how to get something that you want for so long but cannot get?
Accept that you cannot have it.
Behind such situations (like problems, unfulfilled wishes) there are dynamics that are not so obvious. Problems and unfulfilled wishes are just the surface of those dynamics. What are those dynamics? Read More