Being optimistic (or realistic), you can say, that having fear of success is, on the other hand, being brave in losing everything or being brave to fail. If you have fear of something, this means you are brave in the opposite. It all depends on what you choose to serve, life or past. All people are successful in serving what they serve.
Life is a game. Sometimes it is at a high price, yes. It requires from us to react to what is given right here and right now. And it constantly changing, never stands. If you are stuck somewhere in the past, looking at some old problems or carrying old beliefs – your reaction to the day today will be most likely irrelevant and one more opportunity might just flow away to another player.
How to understand if you are stuck? If any event, especially an unpleasant, is happening in your life, and you stop frustrated, angry, scared, blaming, or upset instead of looking for a way to deal with it – this means being stuck. To be able to move with life you need to integrate all aspects of your being into yourself. There is nothing to reject in you – all to observe and to integrate, all your past – this is your strength. Once it is integrated – leaving it and moving with the now.
About the reasons of being stuck and about ways of dealing with them – in the next article.
Elena Nesterenko
Constellations Work
If something goes wrong in your relationship, do not rush to say that your husband or wife, your partner is the bad one.
Very often in relationships there are situations that are not obvious at all. And those situations affect relationships significantly.
Often, if looking at the situation superficially, this is “easy” to see who to “blame” for all the failures and conflicts. If looking deeper at the situation, this often reveals unexpected things. It turns out, you can be physically present near your partner, live with him/her, at the same time be unavailable for him or her. Such relationships are not successful, there might be frequent conflicts. Getting a new partner does not really help, as the root of the situation remains without changes. So, what is the root of the problem? Read More
Many rules, that we carry with us, belong to the yesterday. They do not serve the day today. They make our life heavy. They prevent us from being able to react to what life is giving to us right here and right now. Part of the growth is to leave them behind.
Those rules were relevant when there was their time. And life never stands at the same spot, always changing and evolving. Life is a river. If you are not a river yourself, you are not in the now. Whatever does not serve the now to stay where it belongs.
When we have to deal with our relationships, work related or social situations, actually, any life situations, we might find this is way to difficult, annoying, irritating and so on. Why?
There could be different reasons, and one of them, probably, the most common, is when we deal with adult situations as children. Many people just look like they are adults, but really, they are children. In other words, those adult-bodies are being driven by their inner children. This is much more comfortable to deal with adult situations when being adults.
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Saturday, January 21sth, 2017
11:00 AM – 2:30 PM
Opening more sources for your successful relationships, profession, health, and life – a practical workshop where you can work on any areas of your life that you’d like to improve.
This will be a group session. During the session all participants will have a chance to experience their own work or to participate in so called systemic movements.
If you feel like there is something holding you back from your healthy and successful life, and you are ready to work on it, Family & Systemic Constellations might be the method to look at the root cause of the problem.
This is to Work on the Issues Related to:
Health | Relationships | Problem Children | Profession | Business | Repetitive Life Patterns | & More
Investment: $50.00, $30 for every additional family member
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What is success? Everyone understands it differently. For someone success is a good health, for another it is having children, or a good relationship, or, perhaps, inner peace, or professional life, wealth, and so on.
Looking at success with a wider gaze, we can say that we are all here to live. Then, perhaps, success is something that serves life, its continuation and development.
There are plenty of financially successful businesses that do not really serve life. For example, manufacturers that produce food, full of artificial ingredients, GMO foods, and so on. Being financially successful, these companies do not serve life, they harm their customers’ health. If you have a question, how to be successful in harmony with life, then family constellations by Bert Hellinger is the work helping with this. This work gave the a lot of insights about success. Here are a few examples of the most common situations (every person’s situation is unique): Read More
We are all successful.
The question is, what are we successful at?
I see all people successfully serving something.
Some of us serve this life by serving the now. Whoever serves the now is serving the future, is serving the life. This way we are successful in serving life.
Many of us serve the past. And this takes our energy away from life. Whoever serves the past is also successful, just in serving past. And family constellations show that many of us serve the past, not the life. Read More
In this article I’d like to discuss the causes of various addictions: drug addiction, alcoholism, smoking, workaholism, and so on.
In our society this is quite normal to have negative attitude towards people suffering from any kinds of addictions. This is understandable, because addictions have many negative side effects affecting the society, the family. However this is only the surface of the situation. There are already plenty of researches on the topic of addictions. The author of the family constellations method, Bert Hellinger, while working with many clients, has found that any kind of addiction, especially among men, very often has to do with the lack of connection to the father. In other words, it is the lack of father’s masculine energy that causes addictions. And people, especially man, try to find this energy in drugs, alcohol, smoking, work, and so on. Read More
Happiness, health, success in relationships/work, inner harmony – many people are looking for it.
Bert Helliner, the author of the family constellations method, got once challenged by a question about people’s happiness. “What is more important to you, the dogma (the rules) or people’s happiness?” – this question was life changing for Bert Hellinger. At that time Hellinger was in Africa as a catholic missionary. After having sleepless night, Hellinger decided that people’s happiness is more important to him. It was from then that he began intensive search in the direction of psychology, psychiatry, and so on. The search for these resulted in him creating the so-called school of life, the school that teaches people to live happily, successfully, their full potential. In the process of searching Hellinger created a method of family constellations.
Family constellations – this is a very deep work on a soul level. Read More