If your mother’s situation is overwhelming for you
this means you are in a wrong spot in your family. Become your mother’s child instead of being an adult for her.
If your mother’s situation is overwhelming for you
find your way to your father and things become easier.
We have to _give a look_ into the past in order to get the future.
When we _keep looking_ into the past we lose our future.
The English say “Re-member”.
I find this word very explaining.
When the dead (but not the circumstances) get their places in our souls, they go with us into the future.
There is such a type of memories, that is like an infinite blaming.
In such memories there are always the good ones and the bad ones.
This is to prepare for the next conflict (problem).
This way the dead are not seen with love.
“The Long Way” by Bert Hellinger, Gabrielle ten Hovel
-What was…?
-Who was…?
-What did you…?
-More…?
-And even more…?
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Some Fun Quotes
From Bert Hellinger’s Book “The Orders of Love”
“Some helpers remind on a scarab bug, believing that with its legs it rotates the world.”
“If someone offers you help, be careful” by Vincent de Paul
Bert Hellinger says in his books that this is much easier to live depressed than to be fully happy or to suffer. When being depressed there is no exchange with the world around us. No happiness of course, but nothing really hurts either. To be happy, fully happy is a courage, to suffer is a courage as well.
According to Masaru Emoto’s experiments, look what he found:
The most beautiful water crystals are formed in rivers, especially in fast ones. And water does not form any crystals in ponds. Water likes moving. Life is a movement; it is a movement, exchange, happiness, suffering, interaction.
Also, new can come if old goes away. Isn’t it like a river?
If you are married, or have a partner this really does not mean you are in this relationship. Because you might be in love (entangled) with something from you family past. And this way you simply are not available to your partner, you simply even do not see him or her, your energy is directed away from your partner. If you close your eyes and try to really see your partner you might notice that you cannot even see him/her. This means you are not really in this relationship. And for many problems that happen between you and your partner do not rush blaming your partner or even yourself. You both might be not the real reason for the problems. And blaming will not help. What might help is working on you family past traumas.
>>Blind Loyalty
What kids are ready to do for their family out of loyalty? Bert Helliger in his books says, that kids are ready to die for their family (for their parents, especially for the mother). Kids are actually ready to die for their right to belong to the family, because otherwise they cannot survive. Out of such deep loyalty kids take on burdens that actually do not belong to them. They might belong to the mother, or father, or to other ancestors.This is what Hellinger calls Blind Love. Then kids become adults. Read More
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“Everything is in its right place, and is perfect as it is, it serves something and whenever we judge we lose a connection to this creative force and we become weak… Everyone who passes on judgements are lonely at the end. They lose the connection to the whole world…”
There are “things” that we need from the people around us.
Man-Woman
For example, a woman is looking for a man, or a man is looking for a woman. And the world around us (the people around us) is the right place to search for him/her. If a woman is not looking for a man in the people around her, this means the place of a man near her is already taken. How? The same way as usual, either she has (or had) a relationship, or she might be tied to some situations in her family past, or she might be her father’s daughter, so she actually does not need a man. The same applies to the men.
Also there are “things” that we often search in the people around us, but this is not the place where we can find them: Read More