Basics of Family Constellations | Family Constellations in Toronto, Vaughan, Richmond Hill. Method by Bert Hellinger.

14 Oct

How do You Become Successful in Something?

How do you succeed in something?

You need to connect to it as much as possible.

Where do you learn to build connections?

In your family.

Your first relations are with your parents, your grandparents, your uncles, aunts, your siblings, etc. People who succeed in building these initial relationships know how to connect with others around them. They know how to connect with their work, business, society, and life itself.

In building a successful life, your relationship with your family is of great importance.

Why do people fail in their life projects and relationships?

Very often this happens because their relationships with their family never evolved.
It was stuck in childhood.

This causes a hitch in any life project. Because the way you connect with your family is the same way you connect to life.

Elena Nesterenko – Family Constellations Workshops in Toronto
Workshops Schedule

29 Mar

The Orders of Helping

27 Mar

Orders of Love in Simple Words

03 Jan

Success

“All people are successful. The question is “in what?”. Lots of people are successful in sending their vital energy to the past, which keeps them disconnected from their life. If you want to be successful in your life today you need to send your energy towards life.”

“Your roots and your past are the source of energy and wisdom for you.” Read More →

26 Nov

When You Cannot Bear Your State

If your sate is too much for you, if you feel too intense, or too emotional, or too tired, this means you are out of balance. What does it mean? From many family constellations sessions it often shows that when people are out of balance, it means they are holding a wrong place in their family system. Usually they are connected to the past. Often they try to parent their mother or their father as if their parents were children. Also it happens, they are connected to some past trauma in their family, and not simply connected, but connected to just one side of it.

More about it during the family constellations workshops:
Family Constellations Workshops Schedule
Elena Nesterenko – Family Constellations in Toronto

07 Nov

Right Responsibility

Guilt, shame, and taking someone’s responsibility makes you ill. Taking your own responsibility makes you strong and is very healing for your dignity.

This is all from the Family Constellation work and from Hellinger’s books.

Elena Nesterenko – Family Constellations Facilitator
Family Constellations in Toronto

06 Nov

Signs of Being Connected to Past Trauma

Family Constellations are all about connecting people to Life.

What does it mean, being connected to Life?

To me, it means that your vital force, the one that comes to you from your roots and from the source of Life, is directed towards your life: yourself, your day today, your family, your work, your projects.
Many people are not connected to their Life here and now, at least not completely, because, often, their vital energy goes to the past or reaches to the future. And living the Life without being connected to it is like driving a car and not watching the road. Read More →

25 Jun

Beliefs & Conscience

We carry many very well established beliefs built out of certain past circumstances. They come to us from our background: our country, our religion, our family. We obey certain beliefs on our cellular level if not even deeper. The important thing here is that these beliefs get built into our beings so deeply, so we do not see the difference anymore: where are us and where are the beliefs that might be already obsolete and even damaging to us. Read More →

18 Jun

Damaging Beliefs

Here are some damaging beliefs that we carry:
1. Past should have been different: less traumatic.
2. If someone suffered in our family we also have to suffer, it is not good to be happy.
3. If we co-suffer we help. Read More →

06 Feb

Introduction to Family Constellations

Many of us are looking to improve our health, our relationships, work, business, everyday life.
When we suffer from some issues or problems, we might not know why is this happening to us. Bert and Sophie Hellinger have developed a method, called Family and Systemic Constellations, to help people to live a better life.

Systems that Affect Our Wellbeing

In this world we belong to many systems and they affect us. The closest system, affecting us the most, is our family or our family system.

The closest system, affecting us the most, is our family.

Other systems are our country of origin, countries we lived in, our religion, institutions, work and so on. I am going to focus on the family system for now. It showed in many family constellations sessions that our wellbeing today is affected by our family past. In other words, if we are ill, unsuccessful in relationships or at work, the roots often lie in the family past. Read More →