In this article I’d like to discuss the causes of various addictions: drug addiction, alcoholism, smoking, workaholism, and so on.

In our society this is quite normal to have negative attitude towards people suffering from any kinds of addictions. This is understandable, because addictions have many negative side effects affecting the society, the family. However this is only the surface of the situation. There are already plenty of researches on the topic of addictions. The author of the family constellations method, Bert Hellinger, while working with many clients, has found that any kind of addiction, especially among men, very often has to do with the lack of connection to the father. In other words, it is the lack of father’s masculine energy that causes addictions. And people, especially man, try to find this energy in drugs, alcohol, smoking, work, and so on. Read More →

I’d like to offer this little tool to you I use myself, when I am in some stubborn condition, and nothing seems to work, and there is no facilitator to work on the issue. This might be helpful to work on any symptom, physical or emotional, may be even on some repetitive circumstances. Read More →

A few words about depression. Depression often occurs when a person wants to die. This deep process happens at the soul level (or subconscious level if it’s more convenient). Why does a person want to die? Often, because someone beloved has passed away. And not just died, but nobody regards that person anymore. And to be more precise, others neither see, nor want to behold his soul anymore.

Abortions and Loops

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Feeling guilty or ashamed makes us ill.
Recognizing your own mistakes does not give you anything.
Taking responsibility for your own actions, accepting your past the way it was, without wishing to change anything; opening your heart with love to it – this is how to get over and move ahead (from the books by Bert Hellinger).

Guilt and shame have even more further-reaching consequences than just personal. Endless guilt the same as never-ending shame are directed against the life, and they harm not only the person but the whole family system. You can work on this and learn more about it on our constellations workshops: contact.

Why is our life the way it is? We want to be happy in our family life, lucky in love, healthy, professionally successful. We do not want our children to repeat our mistakes and be ill the same way as we are. These are regular life situations and issues. Sometimes it seems just amazing when it has been decided that from today everything will be different. But no, it appears something is not letting us through. What is that?

The Roots of Illnesses

Let’s discuss the illnesses first. If someone gets sick, the first what seems should be treated is, of course, the body. However, the body is not always the place, where the roots of the illnesses are located. Read More →

Bert Hellinger says in his books that this is much easier to live depressed than to be fully happy or to suffer. When being depressed there is no exchange with the world around us. No happiness of course, but nothing really hurts either. To be happy, fully happy is a courage, to suffer is a courage as well.
According to Masaru Emoto’s experiments, look what he found:
The most beautiful water crystals are formed in rivers, especially in fast ones. And water does not form any crystals in ponds. Water likes moving. Life is a movement; it is a movement, exchange, happiness, suffering, interaction.
Also, new can come if old goes away. Isn’t it like a river?