Category Archives: Relationships, Family

27 Dec

Are You Really in the Relationship?

If you are married, or have a partner this really does not mean you are in this relationship. Because you might be in love (entangled) with something from you family past. And this way you simply are not available to your partner, you simply even do not see him or her, your energy is directed away from your partner. If you close your eyes and try to really see your partner you might notice that you cannot even see him/her. This means you are not really in this relationship. And for many problems that happen between you and your partner do not rush blaming your partner or even yourself. You both might be not the real reason for the problems. And blaming will not help. What might help is working on you family past traumas.

27 Dec

Love, Happiness, Dignity, Energy, Parents

There are “things” that we need from the people around us.
Man-Woman
For example, a woman is looking for a man, or a man is looking for a woman. And the world around us (the people around us) is the right place to search for him/her. If a woman is not looking for a man in the people around her, this means the place of a man near her is already taken. How? The same way as usual, either she has (or had) a relationship, or she might be tied to some situations in her family past, or she might be her father’s daughter, so she actually does not need a man. The same applies to the men.
Also there are “things” that we often search in the people around us, but this is not the place where we can find them: Read More →

27 Dec

Mother

How difficult is this to make at least one step towards the mother?
To look into her eyes? This one little effort might be not as little as it seems. Everything in this life depends on this our movement towards the mother. Mother, mummy, mother dear. This is a very deep and important experience, this is a blessing and treasure to keep in the soul.

27 Dec

Choosing your topic for the constellation. “Me and My Partner/Spouse” issue.

I’ve seen many cases of disappointment after constellation work when people choose to work on the topic “me and my partner/spouse”.
So, there are some problems in relationship and people would like to work on them.
Such constellations often are 2 roles work (her and him, no one else is required) with the result “pure love” in between of two of them: two people hugging and not even the thinnest paper can be squeezed in between. Such a love.
Why is that? Read More →

27 Dec

Happiness

-Mother. Our happiness depends on how we accept our mother.
-Courage. To be happy or in grief we need a lot of courage. This is much easier to be depressed than happy or in grief. When depressed we do not exchange with the world and we have no happiness to lose, no pain to suffer from. Easy, but we do not live our life this way.
Why do we need a lot of courage to be fully happy? Read More →

27 Dec

Father

This is what Bert Hellinger says about the Father:
-Adult. Independence.
With the Father only we find our way to become an independent responsible adult. When we are born, we completely associate ourselves with the Mother, we feel like we are the same and we actually are the same. This is OK till certain age (Hellinger says till the age of 6). Read More →

26 Dec

Mother. Father. Personal life success.

The mother is our first body to body contact in this life. If not accepting the mother we are not OK with the body to body contacts; body to body contact is a problem. And of course, if having a good relationship with the mother, we have no problem with such type of contacts (unless there are any entanglements). In this case a sexual contact is a pleasant experience. But having a good contact with the mother only is not enough to have a successful personal life. Read More →

26 Dec

Mother

A while ago, when reading Bert Hellinger’s books, I was not sure why he speaks of the mother a lot more than about anyone else. And at the same time he would always highlight that the father is _very_ important to us. But still most of the talks was (is) always about the mother. I could not understand.
Now I can share something about it. Read More →

26 Dec

Better than the Parents

How is it in general to be better than the others?
In other words “I am better than you” sounds like:
I am not like you = I am not one of you = I am separated = I am lonely = I am alone.
This seriously affects our social life. Also our relationship. Also our work. Because “giving and taking” is not working as it should. It also affects our health at least because the rest is not working and not only because of this. Read More →