Happiness

-Mother. Our happiness depends on how we accept our mother.
-Courage. To be happy or in grief we need a lot of courage. This is much easier to be depressed than happy or in grief. When depressed we do not exchange with the world and we have no happiness to lose, no pain to suffer from. Easy, but we do not live our life this way.
Why do we need a lot of courage to be fully happy?

Because, at first, we can loose our happiness.
And also there are people, who are jealous, so we might start hiding our happiness and not living it fully.
Also because there are people in our family who either suffered (had tragic destiny) or are suffering now. Feeling or knowing this most of people think “how is this possible for me to be happy when they are (were) so in trouble???”. So we simply prohibit ourselves from being happy in this case, we feel safer when suffering. Think about it from different perspective: if you were in trouble, would you want your beloved to be in trouble because of this? Will it be easier for you to work on your problem when you know your beloved is suffering because of you. I find it to much pressure. I think it is much more helpful to share your vital energy and happiness rather than to suffer together.

[From the Bert Hellinger’s books and family constellations work.]