Victims and Perpetrators. Where is is safe for the descendants?

Victims and Perpetrators
Where is is safe for the descendants?
And where is it unsafe?

This is safe
to see and accept both sides of the past situation/conflict. Both, victims and perpetrators. A victim energy attracts its perpetrator. And a perpetrator energy finds its victim. They meet and neutralize (balance) each other. Like in a chemical reaction. The unbalance on the family level is actually created by the other family members, who don’t want to see one of the parties. When seeing both parties, this creates a state of the neutral balance. This is safe.

This is unsafe
to see just victims, as this leads to excluding their perpetrators. Which is the way for the descendants to become aggressive. This way aggression, either in a suppressed or in an active form, exists in the system. There is a risk for the descendants of becoming perpetrators or to get health problems (e.g. epilepsy is an attempt to control an impulse to kill). This is unsafe.

This is unsafe
to see just perpetrators, as this leads to excluding their victims. This way there is a risk for the descendants of becoming victims or to get health problems. This is also unsafe, there is no balance.
Also, if a victim and a perpetrator were members of the same family, this may lead to schizophrenia in the future generations. I guess this is when the descendant cannot “decide”, who to exclude. This is also unsafe.
Safe-unsafe are not my favorite words, but this is how it feels right to call it as for now.